HOW TO FIND THE RIGHT PARTNER.



Many dive into marriage with little or no knowledge of the main purpose behind the union, while some get into the institution, either due to pressure coming from family, peers, or even because others are getting MARRIED and don't want to be left out. All these and more are many reasons why people get married.


First, before walking down the aisle with anyone and as Christians we need to know God's purpose and plan for marriage.


So, what is the main purpose of getting married?

People get married for diverse reasons which include companionship, procreation, pleasure e.t.c BUT God's purpose for marriage centers on:


Producing Godly heritage: always take into consideration the partner you desire to spend the rest of your life with. When choosing a partner, choose one you will raise godly offspring with. God wants us to perpetuate holiness from generation to generation, he wants an extension in his kingdom.


Enabling us to become ONE: God wants us to know the importance of being joined to our partners revealing it through the trinity.


So the question is, how does one find a life partner or court the Godly way?


COURTING THE GODLY WAY

Courtship is a period when a young man and woman get to know each other with the intent to get married. It is wrong to get intimately attached during courtship or get along just in the bid to know if it will work out. According to God's standard "Courtship involves communicating with each other, planning and discussing the necessary issues that are vital in marriage with the INTENT to get married".


So, basically before courting, you both have concluded to get married then decide to go through the COURTING process in the bid to know the values and principles of the said partner.


This is also in line with Compatibility. Communicating the vitals with your partner to know if you both are good for each other, share the same values and beliefs, financially, socially, mentally, and otherwise, getting to know the likes and dislikes of each other.


Courtship is the time you seek Godly counsel, reading Godly books, and preparing for a successful marriage. Following God's pattern for marriage is the best path to a successful marriage as you will NEVER fail or get it wrong in marriage when HE leads.


Even if there will be discord or issues, it will be easier to settle it within each other if you get married to a believer and one who has the same core values and beliefs as you. 


Your marriage will only be interesting IF you build it solely in Christ's Principles and values. Having known God's standard and intent for marriage, it is pertinent to note that we must not conform to the standard of this world (Romans 12:1_2), rather follow the Godly Principles to a successful marriage.


Before choosing a life partner the first thing to take note of is God's will for you especially in regards to marriage. 


When planning for marriage, you must wholly depend on GOD to choose the right partner. For He knows EVERYTHING about that said partner which you might not know.


The truth is, no matter how long you communicate, live or get to know someone, you won't fully know the person as people change every day either with dormant characters or hidden motives. So you need the help of the holy spirit to show you the right path to take.


To enjoy the dividends of the holy spirit in marriage and other spheres of our life, being a born-again Christian and genuinely following God's principles is vital.


The wedding event is also another issue that is creating a major crack in some people's plan of taking the step to marriage.


Many believe that without enough finance, weddings won't be possible or won't be up to standards which isn't entirely true because there are no set rules that one must have an elaborate wedding or feed the nation when planning a wedding.


Wedding preparations should be within your financial budget, either you desire it to be massive or just within few individuals including your parents and the pastor.


If you want a private or elaborate wedding, it's entirely your decision to make. Marriage isn't the wedding life after the wedding is the main deal and that is what counts.


Don't spend all you have in planning an elaborate wedding then go broke afterward, many have been caught in this web, getting into marriage broke after spending a lot of money on a one-day wedding and even getting into debt.


HOW DO YOU DEPEND ON GOD?


Sincerely Seek God's face: it is very vital to genuinely seek the face of God, have in mind that no one is ever too young to seek God's face. Even as a Young adult, it's never too late to ask God to direct your steps in finding the right partner or pray for the right person meant for you even though you are not ready at that moment.


Before taking the step to marriage, first, you should make it a core in your heart to get married to a GENUINE CHILD OF GOD. Your choice should never clash with God's plan for you when preparing for marriage.


Yes! We might have the list of all we need in a partner or the choice in our heart BUT most times, those choices are influenced by the physical attraction which isn't ONLY the quality one needs in a life partner.


We should always go back to God's definition of love especially when it seems as though we are in love. The way love is portrayed in our world today isn't the same as what has been given to us (Christians) in the word of God. We need to go back to our source for maximum direction in our relationship.


The case of moving in with a partner when you both are not married is also NOT advised in Christendom. The fact that you plan to get married doesn't mean that you are already married, the act of joining you both together according to the word must be acknowledged and implemented.

So until he weds you properly, you are NOT MARRIED!

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